I decided to dedicate this post just specially for you, my dear friend
seems so it have been a long while we ever have a complete proper tele -conversation without disruption.
So to finished off what it has been said earlier... I shall continue here.
I shall not state any name as this post is only for you, and u know who you are.
What Im going to say, you might be offended or even feel its senseless.. but as a friend I just want you to know
whatever Im typing now, is coming from my heart and Im not taking any sides. Its just for your own good. Maybe you will decided strike me off your friends list, but still.. I just got to tell you.
I'll know the past few months have been tiring, hectic and stressful for you
together with the fears for the unknown future that lies ahead ... It could be too much for you to bear.
Therefore you collapsed and cried today...
Think for yourself, is it really so scary of what lies ahead, or its just your imagination running wild?
Is things really as bad as you have imagined?
For the sake of your future and your the other better half, Isnt he worth even the effort for you to try?
Try to let go of the past, misgivings and misconceptions and embrace the new beginning of your life.
It shall be a new start without any judgement and grudges. A new chapter for both of you in happiness and love.
why not forgive and forget the unhappy past not for others but for yourself, you will be happier once the thorn has been removed from your heart.
Is it really worth to live in misery just over things and people that are not within your control? What can I say?
its your life , your choice.... if you choose to make yourself unhappy over irrelevant matters and people.
But bear in mind... when u are unhappy, u are not alone.
Look around you, people who truely care about you... are they genuinely happy as well?
Many times, we get mistaken or mis-interpreted for our actions and words and its a not a good feeling.
Feel for others, as we would feel for ourselves....
Is there a mis-understanding somewhere that could have made you upset? maybe the other party could be just less expressive in their choice of words...
You need to understand that all of us came with a different background and upbringing, so no individual is able to live and fulfil the expectations you have. Some may be lower or higher.. but does it really matter?
While you are upset and disappointed when someone or situation falls short of the expectation you have, did it ever occurred to you.... Are you what others have expected?
Did the other party outcast you, or still accept you for what you are?? Yes there will be time, you might have wish to kill that idiot who have just annoyed you, but seriously... that someone, yes I mentioned that someone will be just be a small part of your life and not the whole of your life.So what is the major impact that person have on you?Rather than spending time mulling on things that have no impact on your future itself, shouldnt you regain all your focus and energy on making things that matters for both of you, creating a better future you will be in.No one is perfect, that includes you and me...even those people you care about. For those less than perfect, please forgive them the way you forgive your own family. If you did wrong once, I believe you deserved a 2nd chance.
Care for them like the way you care for your own family, not because they deserved your attention and concern, but all for the sake of your other half.
Just bear in mind, we can choose our partners, but we cannot choose the 'packages' thats comes along with it. Just like we are unable to choose our own parents and family. If everyone is given a choice, i think we would all want the best for ourselves.
Since we have no option to choose, we have no choice but to accept. Again, its your own choice of life, to accept it with grace and be happy for the rest of your life or live in misery until the day you die. Either way, you can choose to forsake and regret in the later part of life.
Show some credit to your other half, for accepting you for what you are, and the 'package' thats comes along. Are you doing the same for him?
Looking back for the past 3 years, all the time, effort you have put in to build this relationship.. doesnt any bit of it matters to you... so if you can suavely throw everything aside and announce 'Game Over'. No one can stop you.
As friends, we will still be by your side.. but u know its different. What we can offer will never be on par with that 'special someone'
Maybe one day, I too will be in the same situation as what you are today, (in fact, im halfway there.. and learning) and i hope i will remember whatever im telling you now.
So i hope, its justs an act of anger and despairs that you have misgiving about your decision this morning.
If you can change your perception and look at all things with a open heart, will it be better for you and everyone? Life are bound to have up and downs and things dont always end up the way we wish for, so learn to take things easy and appreciate the finer things in life.
Your future and happiness lies in your own hands.. to grab or let go... up to you
im spending an hr+ typing all these for you, so im seriously hoping you can understand where im coming from.
